Keeping going
Habits take longer than 21 days
Daily actions became automatic after about two months on average — with huge differences between people.
In a study that followed people building a new daily habit, it took a median of 66 days for the habit to reach its peak automaticity. Some got there in under three weeks; for others the estimate ran to most of a year.
The same study found that missing a single day did not meaningfully set people back. Steady repetition in the same situation mattered more than a perfect record.
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The median time to reach peak automaticity was 66 days (range 18–254); missing one opportunity did not materially affect habit formation.
Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009.
A general finding about how people tend to work — not advice for your situation, and not a diagnosis.